Success in Marriage

I happen to believe there is a reason for the longevity, and it's really no secret either. The answer has been there all along in the Scriptures.

Success in marriage includes several different things, all of which come under the heading of love, or outgoing concern for the other person in your life. But one of the reasons for our success has been a law that has been abused in a lot of other marriages, and I was reminded of that, when I read one of our several anniversary cards that we received this year. The card read, "Continued success in the years still to come, is assured, if you follow this first rule of thumb. In each disagreement that happens along, the wife's always right, and the husband's just under the impression that he is right!"

Now while this is a really cute and funny quote, it comes from a perspective that has gained a lot of momentum in our society over the last several years. We have seen the man of the house belittled, impugned, and made fun of, until we see a society that is upside down, when it comes to broken homes and infidelity; and there are reasons.

Isaiah 3:12 says: "As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them, O my people! Those who lead you cause you to err, and destroy the way of your paths."

So God reminds us of how it will be in our age. One of the main reasons why our marriages fail today is because of wrong government in the home. Success in marriage, clearly, must have the proper government for it to prosper and have longevity.

God tells us in Ephesians 5:23: "For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body."

So going contrary to these biblical principals will bring on heartache. This does not in any way give the husband the right to be a dictator, which would also be going contrary to scripture.

Ephesians 5:25: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for her."

My wife and I have certainly had many disagreements over the past 52 years, and we have not implemented all the laws perfectly, but we have tried to implement those laws to the best of our ability, with God's help, for more than 40 years now. And we can both attest to the fact that God's laws do work!

If we can pass along any advice, it would be to follow the examples that Jesus Christ gives us, and to do what He tells us in His Word.

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